Whoever defines the problem gets to control the process.
It’s an eye opener isn’t it? Frankly, that principle flies under the radar of most people in today’s world and instead of love being what makes the world go around, this principle seems to be what does.
Whether it’s about governments, businesses, significant relationships and even faith-based systems, to me, it seems this principle is driving how the process of each entity moves.
There’s so much willful and purposeful redefinition happening all around us.
Who is responsible for law making and when, the State or Federal government? Who is responsible for raising children, parents or others outside the home? Who is responsible for shaping how we see the world and problem solving? What is the authority to define what happens in eternity after we die? Who determines how the American Ryder Cup team should play? When is race a legitimate issue or when is it used to control others for agenda reasons? How do executive decisions get made if it seems to go against history, tradition, or documented agreements? How does saying I’m being led by God become suspect when there are divisions among a people led by a leader who uses that phrase to control what goes on in the community of faith-based people? What really is the authority to define how I do relationships? How I can get to heaven? Who says it’s cancer and who says it isn’t cancer? How do children try to define their problems in a check out line at the grocery store and if not heeded, look out?
Again, whoever defines the problem gets to control the process. In every area of life, we see this principle being activated, don’t we?
When is being in control legitimate and when is it illegitimate? If we take love and respect for others out of the equation, I think we should be able to determine the answer.
Granted, the Control Factor is a part of living in this world. I think using this principle, coming from a baseline of love for others, can be powerful, wonderful and healing. Using this principle as the baseline for conducting relationships is self-serving, destructive and twisted.
My goal today! Defining the problem regarding the motivations of our heart. Where that’s coming from determines where it will go. Thoughts?