First and foremost, within this culture of abuse, is the belief there are questions that can’t be asked and if this belief is nurtured, it sets up an unhealthy narcissistic self-centered delusional reality. A person might believe they have altruistic motives behind what they do in life. But, if it’s true that the truth can set us free, especially when truth is embodied in Jesus as the way and the life, then any belief or act which suppresses or represses truth will open the door to the abuse we see happening in homes and ministries today.
Therefore, keeping secrets by directly or inadvertently implying there are questions which can’t be asked is a rule that must be broken. And God has broken this rule when He exposes abusers within those systems. Sometimes it doesn’t happen until years later and children have an opportunity to mature, but the Genesis 2:25 mandate to develop open, honest and unashamed relationships hasn’t changed. One of the greatest gifts parents or leaders can give their families or organizations is to develop a culture where questions can be asked on any level. The old cliché’ that children are to be seen and not heard doesn’t come from heaven.
I believe with all my heart that God builds within the soul of humanity the longing to uncover the abuses over humanity. The being sure your sin will find you out of Numbers 32:23 is active and alive! In addition, the Bible teaches that without question, justice will be exacted on perpetrators who seemed to have gotten away with their sin. “The Righteous One takes note of the house of the wicked and brings the wicked to ruin.” Proverbs 21:12 NLT “Do not fret because of evildoers or be envious of the wicked, for the evil doer has no future hope and the lamp of the wicked will be snuffed out.” Proverbs 24:19, 20 NLT “For God will bring every evil deed into judgment, including every hidden thing whether it be good or evil.” Ecclesiastes 12:14 NLT
We see things from a time and space perspective and even though God sees things from that view too, he operates from an eternity in view as well. In my life, I’ve struggled with that because I want the justice now, but I also choose to believe God promises a justice that will happen before all of humanity dating back to Adam and Eve.
For purposes of redemption, reconciliation, restoration and the satisfaction of justice in time and space, which God actually accomplished at the Cross of Christ, encourages us to expose sin. For that, individuals who are coming forward to disclose the sexual abuse that happened to them in their families or ministry settings are courageous. We benefit from their heroism, albeit they most likely don’t see themselves as heroes in the faith.
To them, I say thank you for not accepting the belief that there is no question that can’t be asked.