Twisted Thinking In A College Class

I was in a community college yesterday teaching about Twisted Thinking in a sociology class of a professor friend of mine. It will be sad to leave this because Judy and I are moving to the Phoenix AZ area in June. Well actually we land there in August with stops along the way to see people we love and our kids and grandchildren.

To start the class, the professor gave students the evaluation that’s in my book Transforming Twisted Thinking and told them that there was no need to report their score in the class. The evaluation reveals whether a test taker is a responsible, somewhat responsible, moderate twisted thinker or extreme twisted thinker.

As the students were finishing up, one older student asked the professor about closed thinking because he said he didn’t agree with what was on the evaluation. Then he immediately said, “I got a 19 on the evaluation and I’m not like that anymore.” The man had a criminal record.

I noticed some other students shuffling about – the majority of which were females. The man throughout the rest of the class hour kept trying to report about how much he knows.

I began talking about what’s really important in addressing Twisted Thinking. It was to go below the street to look at the motivations and the thinking before we’re to be impressed with behavior. That behavior should be seen as something that is consistent without outside assistance. In other words, the changes are internalizing.

Then I looked at the man who (proudly) reported on his score and said, “Twisted Thinking is sort of like when you reported your score before others in the class had finished theirs.” That may have been twisted regardless of a lower score. I kept thinking about one young student who inadvertently let out he had a 7 on closed thinking – not a good score. I thought about other students who took the evaluation who may have been shocked at their scores and could have felt pressure from this guy.

The rest of the class hour went well but for whatever reason, the guy toward the middle of the class hour got up and left, probably to another appointment. Okay I can’t jump to conclusions here, but even if we or I am changing from twisted to responsible thinking, it’s amazing how one irresponsible thoughtless decision can hurt others – and that guy announcing his score was self serving/twisted. Why? He had instructions from the professor not to do it. The dude came across as INFLATED!

Yes, motivation of the direction of our behavior and the thinking must match the behavior consistently before anyone can begin to say, that person is changing. Otherwise, what looks good and seems like growth – isn’t anything but twisted.

Thoughts?

4 thoughts on “Twisted Thinking In A College Class

  1. You are right Chick. But in the process of reporting, this man was insensitive to the other students who were still involved with their evaluations as he boasted. I suppose if we weren’t talking about a twisted thinking class, it would have been the same if the guy got an A for an exam and then shouted to the class he got an A. Not just to report but to make the point. So if the guy was going to report, he didn’t wait for others, didn’t allow the prof to facilitate and clearly wanted to make the point. Like the emperor who had no clothes and everyone else knew – this man didn’t get that he was fully seen by the other students.

  2. I suspect your ideas on this guy are right and he was self serving at the expense of others. One thing I question. You said the prof said there was not need to share the score. You were there and could read the situation more clearly. Here is my point the prof did not say no to sharing the score he said no need.

  3. Yes he did Joe but not in an intimidating way. I was actually thinking of the rest of the class and how they might think about their scores. The professor told me afterwards, the class KNOWS this guy. 🙂 And true, I’ll be bringing my weak golf game. See you soon.

  4. Jerry, I could tell this guy got under your skin. Mine too! It is not the score, but an acknowledgement of who you are. Honesty coupled with ownership provides an environment to change. Appreciate your work. See u in a month or so. Bring your weak golf game:)