I haven’t heard the term “busybodies” in other men’s matters for quite some time. It’s where people stick their nose into other people’s business without asking. I see this in Oregon, when I think of the public watching out for children. Even though Bend, Or is supposed to be the dog capital of the USA and there are lots of children with dogs, it’s like some people go overboard with how they think you are supposed to treat children.
Once, Judy and I attended a festival down by the Deschutes River. There was beer everywhere because Bend, OR also seems to be a major micro brewery city. Our grandson was with us as we hiked along the river. Then he went up to a beer stand and started to slosh the beer that’s left on the table. I say, “Don’t do that!” to keep him from smelling like beer and getting wet with it. Then some man standing right there says, “Awe, let the kid play. He’s not doing anything wrong.” What was that dude? A peacemaker, peacekeeper or a plain ole busybody?
Another time, Judy and I are in a grocery store. She left her purse in the cart and walked away. I stepped around the corner to get some product. Then, I looked at a lady coming up the aisle who takes Judy’s purse and tucks it deeper into the cart.
Who said she could do that? Then Judy comes up the aisle thinking her purse could be stolen. This lady comes back around the corner and begins to rebuke Judy for tempting someone to steal her purse and we’re suppose to be so grateful she had our backs. Was that lady a peacemaker, peacekeeper or a plain ole busybody? We were beginning to think “What in the heck is wrong with these people in Bend!?” Ever been there? It’s almost like we’re gun-shy wondering who is going to insert themselves into our business.
I get it that people care about children being abused or acting like a neighborhood watch posse but come-on!
James says to believers,”…Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:18 In both of the cases above, I didn’t feel stirred to live a life of righteousness.
Busybodies don’t sow in peace. If wisdom comes from above it is pure, peace-loving, full of mercy, and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacekeepers don’t make peace. They try to keep it and sometimes they do it when no one really asked them to, so, they come off as busybodies who control others. Peacemakers may not seem like they care because they do create tension or pain for others out of a sense of love and yes, justice. Busybodies don’t do anything but irritate me.
My modus operandi is to be a peacemaker but not unless I have permission to do so. I guess that’s one reason I’m a counselor. Otherwise, lets face it. I’d be just a plain ole busybody and that makes me sick inside.